Wisdom from my loved ones..

Saat terindah bersama keluarga adalah pada saat kita berkumpul, baik itu rekreasi atau kegiatan rutin yang setiap hari kita jalanin, yang pasti hampir setiap pagi yours trully selalu anter anak sekolah sebelum berangkat kerja, dan pulang kantor hampir pasti lagi kumpul bertiga belajar, atau sekedar bacain buku crita, hal yang rutin buat kakak, Ade dan mami ada aja yang bikin kesel, marah dan senyum, gembira macem2 deh..tapi lebih banyak gembira daripada senewen, dan sering kali kesempatan itu kita pakai buat bertukar cerita apa yang kita alami hari itu, meskipun jadi sering ngobrol daripada belajar. Banyak sekali yang kita bisa saling belajar, mami belajar sabar..hik..hik..which was very hard!! dan terus terang lebih banyak mami yang belajar sebenernya disini, "learn to be a better mum". Seperti misalnya percakapan2 anak2 yang genuine dan tak terduga yang pasti hasil olahan mendengar dari sekitarnya, seperti pada suatu malam :

Gifta : "Mum, Nugra is not only my brother, but he is also my best friend!"

(tapi pantun dari Kakak ngga sempet dibalas oleh adik, setelah selang berapa hari, ternyata masih ada di

memori sang adik pas acara gather-together-brushing-teeth-time, pantun itu terbalas juga ..)

Nugra : "kak, before you said Iam your best friend, and you are my friend too"
(double terharu deh dengernya..)

dan biasanya setelah itu, yours trully share sama ayah dan wajah ayah yang lagi capek pulang kantor itu langsung keliatan sumringah, senyum yang agak jarang terlihat itu langsung ear-to-ear...the fatigue feeling all gone just in a second deh pokoknya.

Kemaren mami yang suka nguping anaknya ngobrol, sebenernya buka suka nguping sih cuma suka denger aja, Kakak lagi ngobrol sama temennya yang lagi slept-over di rumah karna baru selesai test, entah apa yang lagi di critain terdengarlah kalimat-kalimat sakti, dari anak perempuan berumur 7 tahun ini ..

"nobody's perfect, but the most important thing is the attitude. My mum always say that"

dengan perasaan tercengang, bangga dan sekaligus terharu ternyata apa yang kita ucapkan tidak pernah menjadi sia-sia, anak-anak itu mendengar, dan berbagi dengan orang lain.., lain halnya dengan sang adik dia selalu mengulang kata-kata ini :

"aku tau mi, kalo adiknya harus hormat sama kakaknya dan kakaknya harus sayang sama adiknya"

kata2 ini sebenarnya aku ucapkan pada saat mereka mau tidur, atau pas mereka berantem karna sesuatu hal, dan ternyata hal ini seringkali diucapkan kembali oleh mereka, dan ketika mereka yang mengucapkan ini menjadi lebih dalem artinya ketimbang aku yang ucapin, kayak alat pengingat buat this lousy mum yang seringkali alpa untuk lebih berhati-hati terhadap setiap ucapan, dan berusaha mengeluarkan kata2 yang produktif, daripada kata2 akibat senewen....tarik napas, lepas. I believe Lord will guide me in this matter.


to : my Gifta and Nugra
your wisdom really made my days, mum learned lots from you. as we always, say we love each other, and be there for each other every now and then...God will help us to get through all the things ahead us! just keep the faith dear...

jakarta, 14 Dec 2009
im writing this notes, while im missing you guys so much..

kacamata..

Berawal dari note Lao Shi Shue, guru Mandarin Kakak Gifta mengenai performance selamat 3rd Qtr, dan setelah hasil akademik ada note "Gifta can not see clearly to the whiteboard, She might need glasses.."

Waktu baca itu rasanya ngga percaya, masa sih kakak yang baru 7 tahun nanti bulan Juli udah harus pake kacamata. Kalo kami baru pake kacamata ketika sudah cukup besar, me pas SMA sementara Ayah pas udah kerja. Tapi setelah di pikir2 , memang Kakak kalo nonton TV suka deket2 banget...kalau kita tegur mundur tapi trus kedepan lagi terus aja begitu..

Dengan gaya dokter mata, Ayah coba test mata kakak, tapi di rusuhi terus sama sang Adik yang terus ikutan jawab, misalnya ayah pegang huruf C A T...langsung adiknya jawab..trus kakaknya ikut..jadi gejala ngga jelas, kita coba minta kakak Gifta minum juice wortel udah langsung di tolak mentah2.., kita mau ngga pengen anak kami berkacamata karna merasakan tidak enak kalo pakai kacamata..

Setelah di jadwal, akhirnya jawaban yang pasti kakak minus 1.75...kita terhenyak malu karna kok bisa kita ngga tau sampai sudah segitu minus nya...:-( duch maaf ya kak kalo kita cuma bisa marah kalo kakak nonton TV deket2 tapi melihat sebabnya...sorry kak mami salah..., tapi kakak tetep cantik kok pake kacamata...!!

Simple things...

Banyak hal2 yang simple tapi selalu membuat kita bahagia, dan kehidupan ku yang selalu bikin happy adalah kalo anak2 sehat dan bahagia demikian juga si ayah harus happy juga...anak happy ..ayah bete..ya runyam juga urusannya...:-)

Simple thing#1
di hari libur pagi2, keliling2 karna rumah lagi di fogging pagi2 kita udah pergi karna pasti nanti asep dan kecoa pada dimana2, jadi kita limpahkan wewenang beres2 rumah ke 2 assitant kita yang baik2 hati itu.., dan biasa kita balik ke rumah setelah di kode..bahwa rumah udah beres..he..he..he..

+ ayah : kita kemana nih...olah raga aja yuk jalur hijau..
- Kakak : ngga mau ah...(lagii hobby banget nolak..)
+ mami : kita cari taneman aja..liat2 taneman di rumah bude Lenny..
(sambil ngarep di kasih lagi..karna kemaren habis dikasih sirih merah sama
aglonema jenis lipstik)
- Kakak : ngga mau ah..aku ngga takut ama taneman..karna ada cacingnya..
(padahal memang segala yang di propose juga judulnya ngga mau...)
+ Ade Nugra : ah kakak kayak baby aja..ama cacing takut..
(dengan gayanya yang cool...sambil tetep kosentrasi dengan NDS-nya..)

Kakak speechless...dengan gaya cool sang adik..sementara kita berdua (ayah n me..) senyum2 dengernya..

simple thing#2
Masih dalam lokasi keliling2..kita ngobrol ngalor ngidul..cuma one thing kalo sama ayah ngga bisa crita gosip ujung2nya bisa kita di omelin..jadi mesti jauh2 dech tuh crita gosip..hueheee...sementara yours trully paling seneng gosip sehat..(ada ngga sih gosip sehat..???), dan karna kemaren baru ketemu temen lama..crita anaknya baru lulus SMP langsung masuk boarding school di KL, dan aku baca di blog..baru lulus SD juga langsung masuk boarding school..so then ikut2an crita..brought up this subject dong..

+ mami : eh Ayah kemaren Sukma crita anaknya masuk boarding school lho di KL..
- Ayah : oooh... (ngga lebih ngga kurang dech tuh...)
+ mami : apa siap ya..anak2 itu masih kecil2 di boarding school..
(masih tetep pengen crita urusan ini...meskipun cuma dpt jawaban pendek..)
+Kakak : apa itu mam boarding school..
- mami : boarding school itu ya...blaaa..blaaaa...blaaa...
+ Kakak : ooooh itu mungkin karna ibu nya udah bosen ama anaknya...
- Ayah : ha...ha..bener tuh kak..
(deile segitunya..setuju ayah..)

akhirnya pagi itu kita ke pasar Cikini beli cendol di bungkus.....dan dilanjutkan breakfast Bakso Malang Cak Saman Kota (salah bukan sih?)....dan dessert ice cream..di cheese cake factory..

it is very simple..indeed, but i have a very good reason of being happy ...coz Im living by HIS Grace and always surrounded by my loved ones...and having you guys as true friends..Enjoy your happy days, God bless you all..

love
mami nuke
i am the diciples that Jesus loves...

the Complicated Mandarin Language...

Complicated ..at least to me, i found it difficult to catch with this subject..whenever i am able to comprehend the lesson then i could not pronounce the word corectly, once i asked teacher in Gifta's school.., what if this subject is too difficult for my kid (3 times a week with once test every week...writing chinesse character!!!) and these are for 6 years old kid..i've been thinking am i wrong take this class or even the school? but thats the only school in the option right now...we have background why we chose this school. back to my question to senior teacher (she also one of the owner), she got a very wise answer..."Mandarin is difficult for everybody..not only for your kid..as long as she doesnt have any problem with English..just give it a try, but for those kid who has difficulty in English..i suggest just drop, and shift to Bahasa Indonesia.."


The reason why i chose Mandarin (they have Mandarin and Bahasa Indonesia Class...with the same category) because i thought i have paid expensive enough for the school fee so then i have to get more and at the same time, it happened to be my girl's choice..coz she loves mandarin.., but it turned out the mummy has to be more active..so as my girl so then i studied..using the same book. till sometime i have to check the homework after they slept..slightly read the book..and go over..that's worse..Man...really lost in translation..


So many stories about this subject, i really need help so then my girl could follow not only for getting the points itself but to even deepter, so then one day she could talk Mandarin and also write..(wuiiiiiiiih..Mum's ambition all right dech!! ) i dont really much care about score/marks, i just want my girl enjoy learning the subject and good result in the end of the day.

make the story short..i got the young talented Lao shi (=teacher) to have Mandarin session at home "one hour every Monday". The first day, i worked half day the purpose of meeting this lao shi at home and have some points of view ..how this is going..the method she used and everything.. so far just great..

I got good feed back at first , she said that my girl easy to comprehend but need practice to pronounce the word..she compared..bla..bla.., the next week my girl got 100 score for test..good girl, but along the week that i have to leave her for business trip..she got low score for that week test.., it seems this Lao shi pretty disappointed about the result..while to me yeaw..a bit upset but its ok i didnt make a big deal of it.., its not end of the world..still plenty of time. Last Monday, our mbak said that Lao shi need to talk to me..wondering what about? then i called her..

+ Hi Lao shi did u ask me to call you? ada apa?
- Iya tante..itu Gifta tadi aku ajarin 2 crita tapi kayaknya satu aja belum kepegang padahal udah 1 jam lebih..
+ Oh ya ngga papa lah.. kita coba aja...(i am the Mum who willing to take any chance for my girl)
- Iya..trus kayaknya Gifta kurang cepet nangkep....
+ (me speechless...think this young teacher lady has been crossing the line...)
- maksudnya kurang cepet kalo nangkep Mandarin.. (she added ..)
+ ngga papa lah..di coba aja.. (i was really..reallly...uncomfortable with her judgement, she just underestimated my daughter....)
+ no worries..Lao shi

But after that conversation i was really in deep anger...and got no nerve to tell Ayah..he would be pist off for sure..., so i've been thinking of terminate this mandarin session at home..and i dont care if she is the best mandarin teacher in the world.., I AM THE MOTHER I COULD DO EVEN BETTER THAN HER..EVEN I DONT KNOW MANDARIN..., what do you think Ladies...Mummies...? any idea...

Note :
somehow mum being so emotional..if thing to do with the children, but have to be wise to see the problem from different angle..mum decided to keep the mandarin session at home. Sorry Lao-shi for me being so emotional!! if you've got the chance to read this entry...

Lousy Mum all right...

No matter how hard i tried to be a good Mum..still sad story indeed coming around in between managing my home and works..home means children and their activities ...it happened like yesterday

Gifta Mandarin Small Test Story..soon i knew that Gifta would have Mandarin small test, on the way back home from work i called one the mum that i believe a-very- reliable- source for any information related to school. She told me the material for test..would page 53 to 59 for the day after tomorrow, hhmmm...so i still have time then..i usually prepare vocabulary flash card that i made myself related to this page to help my girl to study not always..if still have time. On the way Ayah called that the children want McD for dinner, they didnt want to eat the whole day coz they were not feeling well...so then when ayah called, they asked for McD and Ayah was delegating to me..see the SOP really works here...what-a-busy-after-office-hour-duty :-)

with bag of Mc D, i got home Nugra's only want chips, Gifta some of chicken and rice..hhmm...they're not fully recovered from fever...so they still lost their appetite...i feel sad, tired yes but more to sad to see my lovely ones pada lemes begitu...i decided tomorrow Gifta doesnt have to go to school, Nugra has to go for Photo session...He was going to wear the Bali traditional Custom ..He's so excited..so then ok, that would be ok ..i think. The next day Gifta insisted to go to school, as usual i dropped off before ofis everything normal..until 10 o'clock i"m got a call from ita (one of the mums at school) that "nugra-muntah-muntah" di sekolah..."keliatannya lemes banget"...i feel like going home but i could not so i call my assistant to pick up my boy...., i called home my assistant said that he only wanted to eat apple didnt want anything else..i feel so frustrating that i couldn't be with him...

the story goes..sorry if its bored you to death, i tried to leave early but traffic put me in damage..i got home 7.30...straight to business.., see how's the kids doing..specially nugra...he didnt have fever but still "lemes-lemes", and he went to bed early with his dad..while Kakak would have test..so then had to prepare..there you go.. i got my flash card already "from -shua ya till yuan quan" if you know what i mean..starting.."brush teeth" then my girl say " shua ya".."fast" then my girl said "kuai".. i could see the Gifta was tired..she said mum i am tired.., i asked to sit in my lap..to continue.., still tired continue in bed..she got spirit you know..!! i am so proud of her...

In the morning, I walked with her to the class...its full already..i wanna make sure that she's all rite, she didnt make family tree home work i said its ok i would talk to her teacher... then i heard over two-mums conversation about mandarin small-test...it turned out the test was not from the page that we prepared but different..its from "the-worksheet"... WHAT!!!!!!

without invitation i joined the conversation.. "R u Sure??" yes.., what about page 55-59 ? i insist alias ngotot.."its homework" ..OMG...i felt really bad, i didnt how to react....just feeling guilty all over to my girl. i should have checked to other mum..but its too late...nothing i could about it..

i said sorry to my Gifta.., it was completely mum's fault ... it seems she didnt worry at all, i should learn from her...

this thing would not go away..its still going around in my head, i saw my watched it was 3 oclock oh my baby girl already home by now so then i called her..

+ hi Gifta..what are you doing?

- im doing my home-work mum..its math

+ so how's your test today? can you do it?

- hhhmm..kayaknya sih ngga bisa... (with-no-regret-tone)

+ its ok lah..maafin mami ya..

- ok mum..

most important thing ...that she is all right..!! but still I am a lousy mum all right!!!

Ade paksa kakak senyum...

Lho kakak kok cemberut sih?? ayoo senyum dong kak...

Nugra..ayo dong bilang kakak senyum..

sesuai instruksi..nugra "ask" kakak to smile...

"ayooooooooo kakak Gifta senyum...ayo kak...." kata nugra membujuk setengah memaksa...:)

"Kakak udah senyum nich..ayoo cepet di foto"

berhasil..dech misi nugra bikin kakak senyum..

look at their smile..very look a like..dont you think?

Kangen...

Kangen..banget dech sama kakak juga adek.., kangen ini makin membuncah..ceile membuncah kayak ombak, pada saat teringat kita ngomel2 ke mereka..terutama sama kakak pas belajar.., kenapa ya..aku kok ngga bisa lebih sabar ke anak2...??? meskipun udah di coba...sabar tapi tetep senewen..

yang ada kalo inget jadi merasa bersalah ngga karu2an...sedih, kangen ...pengen cepet pulang..mau minta maaf..

Maafin mami ya kak..., mami ngga marah2 lagi dech...

Pokoknya mami ngaku dech mami yang salah!!! kakak kan pasti cuma niru..cetak ayah ato mami..

Mami janji dech..bantuin mami ya..biar ngga marah-marah lagi, biar jadi mami yang baik dan bijaksana...

Love,
mami

Pertanyaan yang tak dapat terjawab...

Tadi malem..pas lagi belajar sama si kakak.., ade bebas dech tuh..karna memang masih TK ya de' masa mau belajar..he..he..

si kakak tanya dech sama mami...

+ mami sayang kakak ngga?
- sayang dong..masa tanya gitu?
+ sayang mana nugra apa kakak?
- dua-duanya mami sayang...
+ kalo mami harus milih satu, mami pilih..siapa..? harus pilih satu mam...
- (......ooooooooooooooooohhh...GOD....)
- im really in a deep silent..

ada yang punya pengalaman sama?? mesti jawab apa sich..yang bijaksana tapi membesarkan hati anak, to make each of them special..to be honest..aku ngga jawab...just silent mode.

To my children :
you know that mum loves you so much..unconditionally.. Gifta you are my first baby..first baby alwalys special..and Nugra you complete me...I love you both with all my heart and soul.., no one loves you the way i do.. (sorry ayah..i think its true..he..he..)

Mami punya assistant handal ...

Ritual habis pulang kantor..langsung check-check..buku2 dan PR anak2.., try hard to be a good Mum (wink...) biasanya check punya kakak dulu.. (duch anak SD..kok pelajaran kayak gitu ya...)...done udah selesai..

Gantian punya Nugra... smile.., nugra juga udah bikin tanpa bantuan mami, tinggal check aja..lho..kok!! i was the second person who checked nugra's home work..who took over my job??? hhhmmm...it must've been ayah lah.. lho kok signature-nya gini..?? (we have to put our signature on the homework paper..its compulsory from school..)

while i was wondering....there was voice..

+ aku udah check homework ade..udah bener semua kok mam...
- trus ini tanda-tangan siapa?
+ iya trus aku tanda-tangan dech langsung disitu...
- oh terimakasih kakak.., bantuin mami ya..good girl..
(terharu dech bow..!!!)

So sweet...she was acting mum checking her brother homework...!! aduch mami sekarang udah punya assistant handal nich...thank you..kak..!!!

conversation that made me smile...part-1

Gramatical Vs Ethical
Gifta story-time : evening- set place : car

Gifta : in english class, my fren (she mentioned girl name) say like this..."the socks Mr. Danny
(teacher's name) is smelly)..." its not right..., right mum?
me : yes ... and its not nice and polite...
Gifta : ya...seharusnya kan..."Mr Danny's socks are smelly, why do you change your socks...."
me : ##%%&&&&&& (speechless...)

Nugrah Vs Ngalah..
TIS - evening - pick restor for dinner

we were in TIS for dinner as usual we let children decide the place to eat...

me : ok .. what do you want eat?
Gifta : i want that restaurant mum...i want eat noodles...
( she pointed Dutch resto...)
Nugra : i want pizza hut..
Gifta : bosen...pizza
Nugra : aku mau pizza...
me : ga berantem dech..you guys decide..
Gifta : ya udah lah..aku ngalah..
me : gitu dong pinter..
Nugra : aku juga dech ngalah...
me : waduh pinter juga nugra..jadi kita makan dimana nich kalo 2-2 nya ngalah...
Nugra : pizza hut..

Crita-crita bulan July...

Wuich...banyak debu nich kayaknya, karna ibu pemilik blog lagi rada kocar kacir kebanyakan acara..(gaya..yah..) pertama-tama karna sawahnya pindah, jadi mesti nyangkul dari awal.., jenis taneman sama..tapi ngerjain nya mesti rada beda..karna kulture udah pasti beda...

Lebih dari itu..yours trully penulis blog ini..kebanyakan mau alias kebanyakan gaya dan cita2 akhirnya lebih sering kecapekan dech..pegel sana pegel sini jadi ngga sempet.."narcis" disini dech akhirnya..

Tapi ini tidak boleh dilewatkan..karna emang penting...hari pertama anak2 sekolah..yyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeeaaachh.. Gifta udah SD..lho, dan Nugra..TK..times goes so fast..they were just babies..now my girl has been able to spell "principal...teacher...policeman...hour...mouth..d ..el..el.." hebring ya..siapa dulu dong mami nya..he..he..

Ini lho photo-photonya... ....sedikit tapi...lumayan lah..buat di inget dan di tarok di blog...

Kakak Ita..SD..waduch kak..kok kayak anak SMP sich....???

R u sure you are 6 years old my dear...??

Ini daftar student di kelas Kakak Ita...

Ini ade Nugra yang udah Tk..semangat dong de..!!!

Psst...ternyata Nugra cukup popular lho..!! among the girl??????

Ini rules di kelas ade Nugra...

Its piece of cake..lah ya de....Nugra is the rule

Btw, tanggal 13 July Kakak ulang tahun yang ke -6, Di Ulang tahun yang ke-6 kakak belajar..artinya sederhana.., aduch Mami aja kadang2 masih kerepotan..tapi kakak udah lebih ngerti ya...!!! Makasih ya...kak...buat sikap-sikap yang luar biasa...

Happy Birthday Kakak..

My hope, pray, and love always be with you

You are always special to me and you always will be..

You are my best friend.., I love you my darling....

Sorry for sometime..i have let you down..

but keep the faith..that the best thing from Above always come along..

Love..is binding us..forever and ever..as mom and daughter..

and also a very good friend and her best friend... I love you sweetheart...

Drumband Competition...

Gifta and her friends before going to Istora Senayan
(gifta-salma-ayu-nisa)

about more than a month..my girl had been busy preparing for this drum-band competition. specially for the last-two weeks, they're working out like every day... after school, during Saturday... when they were supposed to have holiday.., i was not able to watch her practice but i followed the progress..., my girl joined as flag guard.."do the dancing..." most of her gang joined the same category..., she almost gave up in the first time..shock of discipline culture.. . she got from her trainer/teacher..ha..ha.. " mami..i don't want to go for drum-band practice anymore..." hhhmmm...i dont want her to grow to be a quitter..so then i told her i would talk to her teacher not to hard on her.... she said no..no..no.. so then i rest my case (wink)

the competition was held on istora senayan last saturday..., i woke her up 5.30 in the morning for she should be at her school by 7 o'clock..and before that we have done her hair do as balerina and make-up ... to be honest..i could not do it so then i left it to the expert.... she was still completely sleepy....and not in the mood..., "c'mon kakak..its a big day....wake up..let me see your smile.." my-standard-mummy-style ...and it works all the time...yes, its B day...new experience..for her and us also as parents..

there was 12 contestant.., our children was no. 6.... so then we watched 4 others 1 was W-O...our hearts was beating....hows its gonna be..they're only 6 years old kids..., but WOW...big WOW...it was really baguuuuuuuuussss... banget, all the mommies..gave all the support by screaming...shouting their school name.. as loud as could be..so then our children could hear..i thought it was the wildest supporter so far..in that competition... ha..ha.. while the mommies screaming and giving yell-yell.. daddies stay still...with handy-cam ha..ha.. very contradiction..it doesnt mean they didnt give the support..its just different kinda way they express things..., we are so proud of them and hillariously happy... i felt tears in my cheek... (terharus bow!! secara anak gue gitu lho....) after everything finished..we realized that we didnt much picture of it..., but still lucky..the cool daddy a.k.a ayah got it on his handy-cam... that's why mom-dad should have different characters... :-)

we left home after they finished..coz our children looks tired.., they need some rest.., and got it from text-message..."they are 3rd winner and chosen to be favorite team..." we expect to be 1st winner of course like last year...but the most important thing was that we saw that our children have already gave their best...that's all matter to us, and as parents-teachers we were really a great team in the same spirit for our children.....

way to go..children...
we are so proud of you.....!!!

Ps. i would up-load the video after got it from ayah..

Field-Trip to Planetarium

My girl was excited preparing everything for her today's field trip to go to planetarium at Taman Ismail Marzuki ... , she's been telling everybody that no parents need to accompany her in this field-trip just students and teachers only ....seems so independent...huh... :(

Wake-up very early in the morning... jump up from the bed... she kept saying field trip...today's field trip..gave reminder to everybody..., directly go having shower, so busy... giving instruction to mba Titi, our dearly assistant.. " jangan lupa senter, aku mesti bawa senter karna gelap disana....Aurell juga bawa"

i was just smiling to see how busy she was...

when we were ready to go... i was surprised she was carrying backpack and other small bag..

+ Gifta... tas kecil buat apa?

- Isi camera..

+ Camera maenan...?

- Ngga, ini beneran, ayah aku yang pinjemin. ayahku kan ngga pelit...

( ayah...oh...ayah...speechless...!!!!)

She looks very happy with her new adventure...going out with only friends and teachers...ready to explore.., i wait till the bus left ... cant believe that my girl's going out without me... Have Fun darling....take care, dont forget to pray...i love you...

Pictures got from the camera she borrowed from ayah...:-) what a girl......
taken by her teacher tks Miss...

my sweet and beautiful swimmer

the swimmer has been born ... my little girl .... Gifta loves swimming, and one of the best swimmer in her school.., mom's so proud of you...sweetie..

Apa-apa yelow...

If you love fear factor doing things to conquer your fear, I believe we are Mom (if i could speak on behalf of Mom) we have "Mom's factor". Its the reality show, "How Mother control and manage their emotions in dealing with daily routines specially with their children". I found out the most interesting is the part when the sensitive issue being tested, which i called "uji kesabaran".... i have to sit every-night with my children.... either to do their home work or just daily study to keep them in pattern of discipline I believe Im kind of person .. quite in control (wink!!) , not easy to tense but when it comes into this subject, I lost my control sometime..sometime :) for real..again only sometime..

The difficulty is not in making them understand or comprehend the subject but..non-technical thing like..."ini dulu lah mi.., itu dulu ya mi..., sebentar aja mi...wanna drink first, or can i watch tv after this...?" this session would be needed around 15 minutes, while I was just coming back from the office straight go to this business..even more perfect when "their advocate" around "boleh ngga aku belajarnya sama ayah...?" dont get the wrong idea it would share the burden, children also knows political game, to be honest I hate being bad cop all the time, and Ayah's always been a good cop specially to our little girl...like saving by the bell...(bad cop that everybody loves???? the answer would be Mommy....)

This is story of our routine day..during "waktu belajar"..with my girl

+ Gifta, read this book ok..? (i picked one small story book to practice her reading ability..)
- Why not this..? this is very easy..(she picked other book..)
+ No, this one..u should read loudly..remember on sound..and join..
(She started and just finished one sentence and stopped..and looked at me..)
- I need something for my hair...
(without any comment I get her hair band randomly and put on her head...and get it done..)

- I dont want this one Mom, I want the pink one with heart and fluffy on it..

(here u go guys...and no point of arguing..Mom's got do what Mom's got to do...)
+ ok continue reading..and do the exercise after..
(She continued reading..and again stopped..)
- Mommy why apa-apa yelow? apa-apa yelow?
(she meant everything looked yellow in her eyes, and I was so worried, thought She was dizzy or something..)
+ Have a drink Gifta.., some more..how do u feel now? (worried and concern ..yellow?..oh no, its impossible...tried to get rid of bad thought..)
- still apa-apa yelow Mom..
+ r u ok? feel pusing or perut ngga enak? (concern..and worried..)
- No,...Oooh I know Mom..your cloth is yellow... jadi apa-apa jadi yellow...

Is it really something being a Mom or what?...dont go for fear factor juz go to "Mom's factor"....you will enjoy watching it.. funny as long as u're not the actor..

To my Lovely children :
Seriously, Mommy really enjoy being in this show makes me feel like a winner everyday by seeing you grow.... Enjoy every part..every moment.. Specially when little beautiful voice of yours whispering.."Thank you Mom..." or "I love you Mom..." you guys give me the world...

Dont tell anyone Policy....

Its common, specially among the gossipers either white gossip or black one..."the Dont-tell-anyone-Policy". Even though it was not really effective coz the rumours or news regardless true or untrue still spread out all over...

Im not going to talk about gossip...'ve been trying to avoid...he..he..finally repent from all those things, but I found that 'policy' was not only belong to adult..(as we dare called ourselves adult....even sometimes we dont even understand the meaning..@@##!!!), but its been also in our children dictionary or vocabulary whatever you might call that....Did I say our children..? maybe it should my children...

This is the conversation with my little girl in the car ...on the way to her school :

+ Is Chika (not a real name) new student?

- Yes, but She still cant do much in the class.. She cant read either Bahasa or English.....(She spelled the Alphabet for Bahasa and English)..but Mom dont tell anyone..ok..

I juz smiled why I should tell anyone about such thing, thats probably my girl felt guilty talking about her fren to me..and worry that I would tell anyone. Did I tell anyone..not really, juz you...(who's She's been copying....then...??)

Funny but I should watch what next.., one night we were talking about how important that we have to eat properly without getting fat ...

+ Talking about being fat, who's fatter me or Mommy's J? (one of the mom at school...sorry :( fren......)

- Hhmm..hmmm..(she found the difficulty to answer this question, She was being careful not disappoint anyone..)

+ Who? (I was curious to death...)

- Hhmm..J's Mom..but dont tell anyone ok Mom...

Wow smile was all over my heart..could be the widest smile in a month, but wait a minute...have I been an evil Mom..? Have I mis-lead her in anyway...juz dont tell anyone ok....