Monday, January 28, 2008

Real Friendship or just same interest...?

Completely normal if in this life..feeling like or dislike, even if we try hard to avoid the negative feeling, Some people like you and some people dont ... for their own reason, which sometime we could not even understand ... we cant make everybody happy no matter how hard or even perfect you're trying..coz every person has different expectations about thing..even for the same thing..
Its true story about friendship that I have with 'one very important Lady'... we had hilarious relationship in the past, we were one hell good team.."back up each other" but more for business other than personal ...i've known her for like 15 years..yes 15 years..its not short time at all for two people working together... i knew her family in complete package .. her husband & children, parents/in low, sister-brother just imagine how closed i was with this Lady ... as famous said that there's no party which is not over ...
It was the time when everything seems not easy .... one situation changed her professional career from very strategic level into different kinda post, without me being involved... from then on everything seems different, friendship or relationship that we built had no meaning... only its happened that i should handle some of her tasks (coz i was her 2nd layer...), career or business was all about... eventually i know that there were no friendship between us .... only "interest" that i could accommodate her and not endanger or threat her in any way in terms of business... so then im her friend..
Like the up-side down show, that's also happened in our relationship...over-nothing, yes, I might say over-nothing ...but hey..who knows that i might have hurt her feeling so badly so then she decided to make me disappear from her life..., so then I take my chances to tell her ....personally...

  • dearest ibu, im really sorry if i've hurt your feeling in any ways.., never have and never will intentionally harm you...
  • dearest ibu, the friendship that we had doesnt mean anything to you? i dont believe that coz i knew you too well..
  • dearest ibu, but if "those things" are really meant to you...to be in your highest priority so be it..
  • dearest ibu, one thing i want u to know that deep down in my heart, i still miss you..we still can be a great team ... as usual ...if you want..you may still keep the credit... dont worry about me...im still the same person that u know 15 years ago...just more mature and more personality (narcis ngga tuch gue!!!!)

Learnt Lesson share with my children:

My love, Don't let anyone or anything determine what you think or what you are feeling..., be a winner, think and act like one...then you became a real winner..no matter what real situation you're dealing with. Be sincere, do your utmost, and yr best wishes .. Allah Almighty will send the best things for you personally....

5 comments:

Lisa said...

In France, we don't make friends in the office... it is proven so many times, i had also some "collegues friends" but let it be just collegues

TrueMom said...

i know Lis.., its very thin between interest and friendship in the office...

Sad huh... :(

Unknown said...

nuke.....i left my first employer fifteen years ago. everytime i return to malaysia now, i still visit my firends there....the love is still there!
office friendship - is just that! Friends from the office - the closeness and love are there whenever we meet in the office. Office relationship is seldom taken home....


idham

TrueMom said...

i feel more being partner than competitor, sad ... someone feel the other way arround.

made me realize that nothings perfect ... "business similar just like politics"..people bonded by interest ..

while im trying my best to do everything with my heart ... :( not only interest...

Titut said...

Wow, merinding aku bacanya. What a touching story bu, btw friendship is like marriage life I suppose, it's easy though hard in the same time. May you find a true friend and I suppose you already have, your little one ;). You are one lucky woman ibu ,,,